...has never really been an issue for me. By that I mean that I always intended to stay as far away from it as possible. Lately, though, it has been in my mind and I have to admit that it is some that I would do if the circumstances are right. And when I am ready to do so. Which got me thinking: there are many reasons why people get married. There always have been. But what is it that clicks in people, that makes people thing; oh my God, this is it!!!

Money, protection, fear of loneliness, green card or equivalent, security, dare, not knowing what else to do, are reasons for getting married. I also believe that people get married because they believe it demonstrates commitment. That it means that you are in some way protected from hurt, from abandonment, from disappointment. This piece of paper, becomes the cloaking device from future problems. It is supposed to bind people together in a positive way. So is love, but I wonder how many people in the end marry for love. Which brings me to my age old question of what is this thing called love anyway? You take away the moments of bliss at the beginning and what you are left with is basically a really good friend you get to sleep with on a regular basis is it not? In which case, everyone, well most people, is a potential spouse, so really how special can it be?

Pretty special apparently, and I can see why. I really can. Even in this day and age, I can understand why people want to get married. The tax breaks are just too enticing. Apart from that though, there is nothing, nothing that brings me to that point except for the fact that my girlfriend would like to marry me eventually.

So, even if I do not believe in something, an important thing, do I do it? I read something in "the Double" today, "We don't know precisely what awaits us beyond each action we take." He also says that "Words can be the devil" and sometimes, like now, it seems so true. I am a cerebral person, I am not overly emotional and never have been. I cry maybe once a year, and have a big one. I usually internalise all my feelings and they just excreted in some fashion. So this, this grand question is causing me all kinds of oratorical quandaries. Generally I speak only after thinking about a question, but the more I think about it the more stupefied I become.

In life, in marriage especially, sacrifices have to be made; I know that. But I am also a stubborn bastard. Marriage for me has no meaning, how can I participate in something that has no meaning for me.

Then you read things like this:

One advantage of marriage is that, when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again. ~Judith Viorst

Which is beautiful. Sweet even.

Then there is this:

Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then. ~Katherine Hepburn

http://www.quotegarden.com/marriage.html

Yet this is just the skeptical side of me talking, I do sit and think sometimes that it would be great being married to LMW. It makes me smile... really, what more can I ask for?